Pampy

I got it.  Rona. Covid.  The 19 version.  Just tested positive.  It’s a scary time.  It’s a disease with no symptoms, no medication, no cure,  no ramifications, no real down-side (unless you are sick anyway). But, if you stay home for 2 weeks and then wear a mask in public, everyone should be ok.   I will follow the rules.  Because my children insist and because, as you know, I am generally a rule-follower. 

But it got me thinking about Pampy.   She was my family dog in the 1960s and 1970s.  She died when I was young.   She was named after the French word for grapefruit (Pamplemousse), because my parents were hippies and crazy.  For most of my childhood, I thought she died because I accidently poisoned her. I carried that weight a long time.   Turns out, she was just really old.  But I remember this: I loved her. And she loved me. 

Tonight, as the pandemic reaches into my home, I cuddled with my dog.  Lilly has no idea what is going on. She knows no pandemic or racial injustice. But she loves us. She knows when something is wrong.  And for now something is wrong.  You can tell that she knows.  She is uptight.  And unfocused.  She is jittery.  It is as if she senses things that humans cannot.  That got me thinking about the subtleties of sensitivity and awareness.  Do we know when our friends are hurting? Do we know when other people are suffering? Do we see injustice and pain if it does not affect us? Do we need special sensories  to sympathize with others when they are having trouble?   I do not know. I would like to think that I have always tried to empathize with the plight of others, but I am fairly sure I have fallen short.

Here is a sad truth: I know most of your secrets.  After 25 years representing or defending this community, I have heard it all.  I mean about you.  Specifically, YOU. I know what you have done. I know what you have been through.  I know what others have done to you.  It breaks my heart because every person, every family I know has their pain. Their secrets.  Their struggles. I am just a repository of that information.  And, no, I will never ever share it. With anyone.  But I know. And I have seen you act brave. Or pompously. Or arrogantly.  Or callously.  And I bite my tongue until it bleeds. Because I know. I know plenty of people who are so self-consumed, so narcissistic, that they could care less about the plight of others, unless it might somehow elevate themselves.  But I know THEIR secrets too.  It may explain why Corona (and other diseases) do not discriminate.   Because there is no difference.  Men, women, Jews, Muslims, Christians, blacks, whites, Hispanics, LGBT. 

Dogs and Viruses do not discriminate.  Because they also know your secrets.  And they do not care.

I do not know the answers.  But I find myself in a reflective mood. I will have more to say soon.  You aren’t going to want to miss it, Fabian.

About aweisbrot

Ari is a prominent litigator in New York and New Jersey. He has been featured on CBS Radio’s Wall Street Journal Report, quoted in legal and non-legal periodicals, and has been recognized as a “SuperLawyer” in New Jersey and a "Top Ten Lawyer to Watch" in New York. Mr. Weisbrot is a true “client’s lawyer,” representing a diverse range of clients from among the largest retailers in the United States to smaller local businesses to religious and charitable organizations. Ari was appointed by Supreme Court of the State of New Jersey to a three-year term of service on the Committee on Character. The Committee determines the fitness to practice law of each candidate for admission to the Bar of the State. Mr. Weisbrot also continues to serve on the District Ethics Committee (IIB - Bergen County), which operates under the auspices of the New Jersey State Office of Attorney Ethics. Mr. Weisbrot has been awarded an 'AV' rating for his professionalism and the quality of his legal work from Martindale-Hubbell, the premier directory of legal professionals, and has been selected by his peers as a Super Lawyer. In addition, Mr. Weisbrot has written several articles on commercial litigation, which have been published in the New Jersey Law Journal and the Metropolitan Corporate Counsel. A Former New York City prosecutor, Mr. Weisbrot is a graduate of Fordham University School of Law, where he was a member of the Urban Law Journal and a featured columnist in the Law School newspaper
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3 Responses to Pampy

  1. Francesco Sabetta says:

    Get well soon!

  2. Doris J Newman says:

    Well said.
    Be well. I wish you and your family good health.
    Sent from my iPhone

  3. lisaclare18 says:

    Hey Ari, Shavua Tov and Shana Tova! And MAZEL TOV on your son’s marriage! The wedding video you posted was amazing and truly truly beautiful! Also, great blog post. The transparency is appreciated by many I’m sure. I wanted to wish you refuah sheleimah and I really hope you’re doing ok. How are you feeling? We are planning on having my daughter’s wedding in 3 weeks. It will be completely outdoors and as of now we are planning on having 110 people. That may change to be half that amount or even less depending on how things are after yom tov. I hope you don’t mind, but I wanted to ask you if you think you contracted Covid outdoors. I haven’t heard of any outdoor covid transmission and we are planning to have strict social distancing and masks etc like you guys did. Still, I’m a little unnerved…. Any helpful tips on this front would be appreciated. Please send my best to Francine. She looks even more beautiful and younger than the last time I saw her which was years ago. One day when things are all better out there, I hope the four of us can have dinner. In the meantime, I wish you refuah sheleimah and all the best this year and always. Lisa and Jamie
    Sent from my iPhone
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